Is self-sabotage a real thing?

Is self-sabotage a real thing?

~ why I believe this buzz-word needs a re-frame ~ I’ve pondered the concept of self-sabotage for a few years. Initially it seemed to make sense, as it did for a lot of people. When I watched myself destroy things that were good for me, I labelled it as self-sabotage....
Big boys don’t cry

Big boys don’t cry

~ An outdated belief that continues to have a detrimental impact on men and the people who love them ~ The other day I was at my parents’ house, putting my little 3-year-old boy, Charlie, in the car to drive home. He had a meltdown about something I can’t remember,...
The language of self-compassion

The language of self-compassion

~ Why trauma impacts our self-talk and how to restore your sense of self-compassion ~ Mindfulness-based cognitive therapy (MBCT) is one of the main modalities I use when working with clients. One of the concepts that falls under this umbrella is the way we talk to...
Stability is a pre-requisite for creativity

Stability is a pre-requisite for creativity

~ How healing from trauma rekindles your creative spark ~ I’d always loved writing as a kid. When I was in year 4 I declared I would become a writer. My seat was next to the snotty unpopular boy of the class who was in love with all the girls and sat way too close for...